In a brave and rare confession, Nigerian socialite and businessman Eze-Nwalie Nwogu, popularly known as Pretty Mike, has opened up about being sexually assaulted as a child by domestic workers. The revelation, made on a recent episode of the In The Company Of Men podcast, has sent shockwaves across Nigeria and sparked important conversations about child safety and gender equality in parenting.
Pretty Mike, who is often in the spotlight for his bold lifestyle and controversial opinions, shared a deeply personal story about his childhood:
“I lost my virginity at 13 to my housemaid. Not even one, but two. Did that change my orientation about sex? Yes. Am I coming out to report it to say that something negative happened to me? I think I have decided to let it go, especially at that age. Nowadays, 13 can even be seen as an adult sometimes.”
He went on to explain that while he was able to process what happened at 13, the impact is much worse for children who are abused at even younger ages:
“For people that were taken advantage at 6, 7, 8, 9, 10—it is totally no, because they had no idea.”
Pretty Mike’s story is a powerful reminder that sexual abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of gender. In Nigeria, conversations about child sexual abuse often focus on girls, leaving boys vulnerable and their stories unheard.
His courage in speaking out is helping to break the silence and stigma around male victims of sexual abuse.
A Call to Action for Parents
Pretty Mike did not just share his story—he used it as a call to action for parents and guardians:
“I always tell parents to pay attention to your kids, not just the females but the males also. Because I have realised that parents are always considering their female children when hiring domestic workers, but what about the male child? They are all young. There shouldn’t be a double standard. Look out for your kids and make sure nobody takes advantage of both the female and the male.”
He urged parents to be vigilant about who they bring into their homes and to create an environment where children feel safe to speak up about any form of abuse.
Pretty Mike’s revelation has sparked reactions online, with many Nigerians expressing sympathy and calling for more action to protect children.
Experts agree: Child sexual abuse is a serious issue that requires attention from parents, schools, and the government. There is a need for policies and programs that educate parents and children about sexual abuse and how to report it.
Child protection experts say:
“Every child deserves a safe environment. Parents, teachers, and caregivers must be alert and proactive in preventing abuse and supporting victims.”
Steps Parents and Guardians Can Take
Here are some practical steps parents and guardians can take to protect their children:
Have Open Conversations:
Talk to your children about their bodies, boundaries, and what to do if someone makes them uncomfortable.
Check Backgrounds:
Always investigate the background of anyone you hire to work in your home, especially domestic staff.
Listen to Your Children:
Pay attention to any changes in their behavior or mood, and encourage them to share their feelings.
Teach Them About Consent:
Educate children about the importance of consent and respecting others’ boundaries.
Pretty Mike’s decision to speak out is a bold move that is inspiring others to share their stories. By breaking the silence, he is helping to create a safer and more supportive environment for all children.
“Let’s all work together to create a safer environment for every child in Nigeria.”
Quote of the Day
“Look out for your kids and make sure nobody takes advantage of both the female and the male.”
— Pretty Mike
This powerful statement reminds us that every child is vulnerable and deserves protection.
Sexual abuse is a crime that knows no gender. Pretty Mike’s story is a wake-up call for all parents, guardians, and members of society. We must do more to protect our children, listen to their voices, and ensure that every child grows up in a safe and loving environment. Let us all stand together to break the silence, support victims, and build a safer Nigeria for our children.
